Girls in their summer clothes by Cyll4n on DeviantArt
Girls in their Summer Clothes, Belmar NJ style
My kids are 5 and 9. They dress up looking nothing like the magazines (spiderman, highheels, hat, 20 or so braclets and bikini outside a t-shirt) and I NEVER judge them but saying “wow, you look cool! What are you playing?” And from their answer, we play; detectives, supergirls, super-power-people, school, café, circus or what ever they fancy.
Girls in Their Summer Clothes …
I have two daughters (15 months and 3.5 years) and frequently fall into the set piece of “you look so pretty in that dress/hair combed/etc.” My parents did not raise me to be conscious of my looks and thanks to them, I managed to avoid body obsession until well into high school. Both girls have wonderful bright and outgoing personalities, love their books, love their soft friends and I know I need to make more of a point to acknowledge these things that make them special, not just that I think they look beautiful. Thank you for the timely reminder.
Writer on Irwin Shaw's The Girls in Their Summer Dresses
I have thought these same thoughts for a very long time. As I think about it more, I wonder if parents (moms) may be subconsciously contributing to this when they dress their daughters up all fancy and focus so much on their hair and other outward stuff. I am not suggesting that we should put girls in “boys’ clothes,” but maybe give them more freedom in choosing their own clothes. We might be surprised at what they choose.